Praying Wives Have Power!

Do you pray for your husband everyday? Do you ask God to bless him? Do you ask God to hold him, give you strength to encourage him? Do you ask God to anoint him? Do you ask God to give you a love for him beyond compare?

If you don't You Should. Why? I know as a woman you are thinking... "Wait a minute, just hold on here, you don't know nothing about me, you don't know how things are in our home. I am not the one that needs changing!" then through prayer you may find out that the Holy Spirit has been working on You or both of you for quite some time. In this one simple prayer for your husband may be the key to changing things for the better. You are thinking, "Yes, I will pray for my husband, I will ask God to change him. He is the one that makes mistakes, he is hateful, he says he loves me and he loves God, but I just don't know where his head or heart is anymore. I am not the problem, it can't possibly be me."

I can tell you from experience, and this is not easy for me to say because I was a HUGE proponent of female independence, doing things on my own and being in complete control of everything, but ONLY GOD, can put together, keep, and save any marriage. I didn't believe that marriage was all they said it was, the husband first, the wife in submission to Him and to God, and sitting around waiting for him to make the decisions, to hear from God and wait to see how things would work out between the two of them. I wanted to be the one in control, I would be the one to fix everything. If God couldn't do it through me, I would do it for my family without them both! He can be here if he wants, but NO ONE is going to control what happens to me and my kids. That was me, that was my attitude, and unfortunately we paid a terrible price for my disobedience and unsubmissiveness to GOD, not just my husband, but I threw God in under the bus too.

To be honest and totally frank with you, I have never seen a marriage that took only one person to manage and was completely perfect in the relationship. Marriage takes three, to be successful, it takes You and Your spouse of course, it takes WORK, and it takes God, our father, to give you and your spouse a love and desire to serve, love, protect, communicate, and submit to one another on a daily basis.

God put you two together for a reason, for His purpose and calling and He is the ONLY way you can keep your marriage pure, holy, separated for His service and for your marriage to be renewed everyday. From personal experience, I am saying this from my heart. God can give you a love for your husband that you cannot ever imagine. He can put a fire in your heart and mind renewing it everyday, when you allow Him to be apart of your marriage.

Praying for your spouse is your way of loving your spouse into the Kingdom of God if he is not a child yet. If he is, than this is a way to ask God to be with him, strengthen him, comfort and keep him when he is away from your home, away from you and in God's care. It is a way for you to show God how you love your spouse above and beyond yourself and it will show you that you are not your own anymore. I know that this is the way that God comes in and changes your heart and life, renewing a love in you that you would not ever believe would be possible for your husband, and for God Himself. This will also show you more secrets into a Kingdom Marriage than you will ever imagine. Then you'll find the deeper you fall for your Husband, it will give you a renewed heart, mind, and love for God that you have never known. It will change you, and in changing you it will change your spouse, your marriage, your family, and your life! 

This is a sample of the Prayer I Pray each day…  

Bless Robert Lord, as He is concentrating on your service and ministry. He loves you and wants nothing more than to be your child, your servant, and bring others to know you more. He is a wonderful husband, father and leader to our home, and a strong example to others he sees and knows.

Bless and Anoint Robert in everything he touches, All his works for you, in ALL he says and does in worship and praise to you.

I pray you bless and keep Him close to Your Heart, remember Him in every way. Not just today, but everyday. Thank you for this man you have put into my life, this one you have given me to pray for, to care for, to encourage and to love.

AMEN

What Will Your Answer Be?

Why do you do the things you do? Why do you stand for what you stand for in your life? How do you know what direction to go or what job to take? What is it in your life, that makes you so sure of anything you have ever trusted in, decided on, or standards and morals to live by? Can you answer that for yourself? Do you even know?

When someone questions your boundaries, questions your standards or code of conduct you live by, what do you do? Do you question them yourself, do you stand up and defend them for all they are worth to you, or are you silent? Do you care that others don't agree with your lifestyle? Do you care that they do agree with it? Does it make a difference to you when you are being questioned, or do you welcome the opportunity to stand for your beliefs, stand for your morals, character, and faith? Where do you stand? What is it you stand on? If  you don't know what you believe or where you stand right now, are you searching, or does that part of life even matter to you yet?

When you stand before God, what will your answer be? When God calls you home, calls your name and you stand before Him on the day of Judgment, what is going to be your answer to Him? What would most people say your answer, your stand, or how you lived your life? Will they say it was carefree, you didn't have any sort of beliefs, that you lived your life to the fullest and other's beliefs and convictions were not important to you? Would they say, outwardly, he was a blast, fun to be with, she was amazing, always a girl "up for anything" and didn't care about the consequences, or would they say, "oh, that is a true child of God. They knew how to stand up and be counted, you knew whether they were talking or just there, that their mind was always on the things of the Lord, that they lived, heart and soul for God's purpose, for advancing the kingdom and loved others well." is this what they would say?

What do you want their answer to be? What do you want YOUR answer to God to be? I love you Lord, I lived for you every day of my life, outside, AND INSIDE my house! Are you able to say, "I lived for you no matter what the cost, and you gave me strength to make it through each day, you have given me so much, that the only thing I could give back to you, MY GOD, was me, myself, Inside and OUT! Wholly and Holy for YOU!"

When Christ was sitting with His disciples He asked them, "who do men say that I am?" they were able to tell them a lot of answers, teacher, prophet, and many others, but when He said, "Who do YOU say that I am?" Peter answered, "thou are the Christ, Son of the Living God." Jesus knew that in Peter's heart, that he could not have known that without God revealing that to Him personally. He even told Peter just that, that the only way he would have known was through God's revelation to him in his heart. That is when Christ told Him, YOU ARE A ROCK, upon this ROCK I will build my church." Christ needed to leave someone in charge, but could only leave the one who could be still and listen to God. Listen to what the Spirit would tell and show him in his own life as well as in the life of the other men and women he would meet in his lifetime.

Peter was strong in the Lord, in the presence of the Lord, but showed that he did not have strength alone without Christ by His side. Until the day of Pentecost, when the Holy Spirit came down and filled each one of the disciples with his strength and might. He received POWER by the Holy Ghost (Dynamos = we get Dynamite) and he literally became "Walking Dynamite" for God. He gave him so much boldness after that, so when it came to standing up for the Lord, Walking in Faith, Standing in the Crowd and saying "Yes, I am HIS!" Peter could do it.

Do you have this power to stand for God? Do you have the Holy Spirit ready to rise up in you and shake the earth with His word and In HIS POWER? You can today. Ask Him In. Ask Christ to live in Your live, to take control. Even if you have already been saved, you can call on God, tell Him you want HOLY BOLDNESS for Him. The Holy Spirit is already living in side of you, Peter told everyone in Col. 2:10, "You are complete in Him..." You already have it, it is there, inside of you. You have to make it real, ask God to help you grow and lean on Him. Learn to line up your mind and soul with your spirit, by renewing your mind, Romans 12:2 and living for God, day in and day out. Read your bible, pray without ceasing, and fellowship with other believers that will walk and talk with you, strengthen you and help you to Grow in God. You can do it, I know you can. Most of All, God KNOWS YOU CAN DO IT!!!

What will your answer be???

Without a Vision, the People with Perish!

This saying came to my mind today. We have a vision for our ministry, we have a vision for our family, we have a vision for the church we attend, and even a vision for the community we live in. Not visions we came up with on our own, but ones we feel we were lead to by the Holy Spirit. God wants His Children to get a vision for what they are supposed to do for Him, how they are supposed to lead, or follow, and what God's will is for their lives.

Have you seen your vision yet? Has God shown you something and you just haven't figured out exactly what it is He has shown you? Are you working on your vision? Are you hiding your vision? Are you afraid, confused, or are you just waiting?

God has a plan for each one of us, but we can only know that plan through our own one-on-one relationship with Him. He wants to talk to you, teach you, lead you, and show you through the Bible, what He has for your life. It is up to you to take the time to listen. It is up to you to start taking that time with God. Alone, not those moments where you say, "oh yeah, hi God, can you help me today?" and go on with your own life. He wants to meet with you, in your prayer closet. In your secret place where you can be found. He wants to share with you all he has for your life. Are you going to let him in? Are you going to let Him show you?

If you don't know how, I encourage you to contact me, talk to your minister of your local church, a prayer partner, or someone, to help you walk along with God, to show you how to find His presence. Find your presence with God, learn to commune with Him. YOU will NEVER be the same again. That is for sure!

Today I Pray For You...

I have been writing and writing for so long, I love the way we can use words to write how we feel, to express our feelings; love, joy, happiness, hurt, anger, and even frustration. I always like that saying, "the pen is mightier than the sword," but many times, I find that people, no to different than hearing only what they want to hear, will read into words on paper or on the screen only what they want to, and take from it, only what they care to turn into a meaning all its own, not always what was intended for the reader to read and almost always, never what the writer meant in totality.

I know that my blogs have been lengthy, but the ones I have written so far have been very important, and needed to be said in its entirety, and could not really be broken up because of the flow of the Holy Spirit. I want people to read my blogs, I want them to find the ultimate value and the blessings that God has for all of us through these postings. I did not come up with this blog on my own, I told you from the beginning, this is God's blog, HE is the one who gave it to me and told me to write and share from a mother's point of view.

My prayer today is for you. It is that you will take the time to read these postings, pray, see what God wants you to get and understand from the words He has told me to share with you. I spend a lot of time in prayer and in the word of God to share Scriptural Foundation and it is very important that this is sound doctrine for all of us. It is my hope and prayer that God will use this blog to bless you, teach you, and help you through so many things, not just raising children, or just listening to me rattling on, but that you will receive strength, growth, and true meaning and foundation in your relationship with God.

Please take the time to read these postings, men, women, boys and girls, it is for everyone. It is from the Lord, for His Children. I am learning so much from these postings, I just pray that you get as much out of them as I do, and enjoy all of it. Now that the foundation of Salvation and building a relationship with God are laid, we begin the walk, together. More meat and potatoes of growth and peace. I hope you will join me.

So Where Do We Start from Here?

I shared with you last post, the scripture in Titus 2, that we are to teach our children in the things that make them a successful, Christian mother, wife, child, and even husband and father. It is up to us to be those examples, it is up to us to show them how to live a life pleasing to God. How do we do this, how do we know that we are doing it the right way?

First of all, the most important thing you need to do is to make sure that you know, that you know, that you know, that you are a Child of God. Not just that one day at church camp everyone went forward to pray a prayer and you followed along or that you prayed a prayer in fear of going to Hell, because the preacher scared you into it. You need to make sure that you are a true child of God. That you not only prayed a prayer asking Jesus to come into your heart as a child or teenager, but that you have committed your life to Christ. That you know beyond all shadow of doubt, that you are saved, that you know you are a sinner, because we are all sinners, Romans 3:23 "For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God." The bible says, "where by one man sinned, sin entered into the world." Scriptures are talking about the sin in the Garden, by Adam. He was told to stay away from the tree of knowledge of Good and Evil, but he was tempted and beguiled by the serpent and his wife, and ate of the fruit that they were forbidden to eat. Therefore, causing all of us to be sinners, by our own fleshly nature.

In Psalms, David said, "in sin did my mother conceive me..." which means that I was born into a sinful, carnal nature, that I didn't have to be taught to be sinful or rebellious, that is just a part of my natural state. The first word we have to teach a child is "NO" because they are always into things. We didn't have to teach them to be little busy bodies, in trouble all the time, that is their nature. We didn't have to train them for the terrible two's that is inherent in their own hearts. Thankfully, when God saw that there was no way to escape the sinful nature, not even by the shed blood of a little lamb in the flock, He knew He would have to find, ONE PERFECT SACRIFICE, and He gave us His only son, Jesus Christ, to be that sacrifice. To be a substitution for our own sins. John 3:16 says, "For God so loved the world, that He gave His ONLY SON, that whosoever believeth in Him, should not PERISH, but have EVERLASTING LIFE." He also shared with us that Christ came on this earth, the Son of God, part of the trinity, All God, but also all man, the scriptures said that God sent His son, who "knew no sin, to become sin for us." So that we could be saved.

How do we become saved? Romans 10:9 says that If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sin and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness, and Romans 10:13 says for whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. You see, you must acknowledge that you are a sinner, then you have to call upon the Lord, Jesus Christ, confess your sin, ask God for forgiveness of those sins and ask Christ to be the Lord of your life. Let Him come in and rule and reign in your life. I am not just talking about praying a prayer, Matthew 3:2 says, "Repent Ye..." Repentance is true change, you change your heart, change your mindset, change your lifestyle, change your priorities, and change your tongue. It is a true 180 degree turn around from where you are now. You can't just pray a prayer and go back to what you were doing. It is pray a prayer and change your life.

You see, the bible says in Romans 12:1-2 that "by the Mercies of God, present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God which is your reasonable service. Be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed (changed) by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is the good and perfect will of God." You see, God doesn't just want a prayer, and a simple sorry. How many times do you tell people you are sorry then go right back later and do it again? God wants your heart, life, and service.

Do you realize that Christianity is the ONLY belief system in the world where you do not have to do anything on a daily or regular basis to escape God's wrath in life. God is the only god, who Pursues His children for a REAL RELATIONSHIP. If you do not accept Christ as your Savior, He says you are not His, but once you are a child of God, He chases after you. You don't have to sit and wait for Him to show, God promises, "I will never leave you, nor forsake you." You see, when He created man in the garden of Eden, it was to fellowship, to spend time, to walk with him and talk with him. To build a relationship, to spend time day in and day out together. He loves His creation, He loves His children, and He wants more than just a "oops, sorry God" He wants YOU.

There is a way to have this relationship with Him. I hear people say, I prayed a prayer, but in my time of most need, God was no where in sight. You know, when I got to the root of the truth, they had heard a message of hellfire and brimstone, that they were damned for eternity to hell, it scared them, they prayed a prayer to go to Heaven, but no one told them, what that all really meant. That when you pray the prayer, it is just the beginning of it all. You don't just all of a sudden have perfection, have sinlessness and a wonderful happy life, marriage and perfect kids. That isn't how this works. You see, the Bible says, "faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God." We are also told, "study to shew thyself approved, a workman that needth not be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth." In Luke, Christ says, "Sanctify them through thy truth, thy word, is truth." You see, you have to build a relationship with God.

Once you become a child of God the Holy Spirit takes up residence in your heart, but until you learn how to let the Holy Spirit take control of your life, come in and totally consume you, in your heart, mind, and soul, then you will still want to and will walk the way you have known. You do not have the knowledge or will to change on your own, God has sent the Holy Spirit to help you change. You will find that as you grow in grace and the knowledge of God through prayer, scripture and daily renewing your mind and setting yourself apart from the world as a holy instrument for God's service, that you will begin to see the real fruit of your obedience and growth in God. Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." When you let the Lord God touch your heart and life, and you begin to build that one on one relationship with God, praying, talking to Him, listening to His words of life through scripture,  your faith becomes stronger, you begin to lean on God for everything and you begin to see His mighty hand in all you say and do. You will feel His blessings fall on your life, sometimes in little ways, but also in big ways too.

Does this mean your life will be perfect? OH, NO Way! Does it mean you will have a happy, go lucky life, where you never have a bad day and never have to question why? NOPE. Does it mean that Satan will leave you alone and you will never have a test or trial. Wow, not at all. This means, that when these tests and trials, when bad days and your strength and faith is wavering, you will have God to call on. You will have a comforter and a rock to hold on to when the storm is tossing you about. It is so you won't feel alone, because your heavenly father is right there when you call, holding you, telling you to hold on tight, you will get through it all together. We go through trials to build our character and to build our relationship with God. It is when you first, seek Him and His kingdom in those trials, in the suffering, in the times of lack, that God will take care of you, come through for you, and add all your needs to your life and CARRY you through. (Matthew 6:33)

Please know that life is never perfect, whether you are a Christian or not, but when you have God on your side, you are able to endure more, you are able to see the other side, you know that there will come an enormous testimony and blessing to share with others. You know that you can show your children and your spouse, that "with God all things are possible." Won't you do it today? Will you call on Him, ask God to be the Lord of your life? If you have never called on the Lord, please say these words below and call on God to be His Child forever.

Prayer:
Dear God, I know I am a sinner, I know that without you I can do nothing. Thank you for sending your son the Lord, Jesus Christ as our Savior, our provider of eternal life. I ask you Lord to forgive me of my sins, come into my heart and be my Lord, my God. I pray in the name of Jesus Christ that you would allow your Holy Spirit to come in and consume my life, teach me all things, that I may be a Child of God, Holy, sanctified, set apart for your use. Help me to be the mom or dad that you need me to be, that I can point my children toward Heaven, that they will learn about you and also accept you as Lord and Savior. Thank you Lord for all things you have done, are doing, and will do in my life starting today, right here, right now.

In Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

Please, if you have prayed this prayer, email me, message me and let me know, so that I can pray for you, send you a special gift for a new child of God, that will help you grow in Grace and Knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ. I want to be your partner in this new step in your life, to help you find strength to stand up each day in this decision you have made.

Suggested Scripture Reading for New Christians: the Gospel of John and Romans.

All Eyes Are On You...

I wanted to share something with you today that God has put on my heart today. I want you to understand that this comes from Him, this entire blog is Holy Spirit inspired, I don't write from my own mind, but from the Mind of Christ, what He has given me to share with you as mothers, parents, young and mature women in the Lord.

Titus 2:1-8 states: "But speak though the things which become sound doctrine: That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience. The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach young women to be sober, to love their children at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded. In all things showing thyself a patter of good works: in doctrine, showing uncorruptness, gravity, sincerity, Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you."

Okay, so what does all this mean? Well, that is what this whole thing is about. That is why I started this entire blog, why we started our ministry, why we started Titus 2 Project. This is so important, that God wrote sections and books, and books on this subject. How we are to raise our children. The bible says in Proverbs "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it." You see, you are your children's teacher. You are their example, you are the only way to God they know. It is up to you to show them the way to God, the true way, not just take them to church and hope for the best. It is important that your children see you live what you teach. I have heard this said, "Children see a sermon better than they can hear one." In other words, "do as I say, not as I do" does not work with a child. EVER!!!

You cannot tell them not to smoke and do drugs, then smoke and do drugs while they are watching you. My step-daughter spanked her child for a curse word that came out of her mouth one day, I looked at her and said, YOU think you can honestly spank her or punish her for saying a word that comes out of your mouth, ever other word?" NO, that isn't right, it isn't fair to the child, especially when they are young, impressionable and not to an age of understanding the difference of what you do and what they are allowed to do. We tell our daughters, "no you can't wear that, it is too revealing, too short, too grown up for you," then when they turn around, you have on something shorter, more revealing, and way to inappropriate for a mother to wear.

You think that no one cares what you wear, how you look, or what you do on your "own time" but believe it or not, you have all eyes on you all the time. What you wear, how you look, what you show off, your children are watching. Whether it is right in the middle of everything or from afar off. Children see their mother as perfect, wonderful, loving and as their example of what they are going to be later in life. No matter what you tell them to do, how you tell them you want them to live, or how to dress, they are going to strive for the rest of their lives to emulate you. They will be setting up the rest of their world with you as their example.

God wants you to be their example, He wants you to be their teacher, their mentor. He wants you to teach them how to be proper young ladies and gentlemen. He wants parents to be the living example of Christ to others, and to their children. He wants them to see how we should live modestly, how we should live in submission to one another, and that we should care what we look like, dress like, how we treat others, and how to be a person that stands out in the crowd, not because their clothes and makeup is so distracting, but because YOU can't help but let the Light of God shine in you and through you no matter where you go, no matter what you do.

When we begin to live like the world, and dress like the world, our children see a worldly outlook, instead of Godly. When we fail to teach our children, yes, there are women wearing some pretty revealing things in magazines, that people think a size 0 is perfect size, but that in God's eyes, He sees beauty and perfection in His Child no matter what size or shape they are. We are to be teaching our children to measure themselves by God's standards, not by magazines, not by Americas Next Top Model, but by the word of God, and everything that comes out of your mouth as their mother, their mentor, and their guide. We need to be training our children, we need to be a real example to them, and show them the love of God, with or without fashion. "Man looks on the outside, God looks at the heart."

Now as a Parent...

I remember being so resentful to hearing my parents say "because I'm the boss, because I said so, or because you are the kid, I don't have to tell you..." 

I remember telling my husband when the kids were born, two things, "I will never count at my children and I will never just say, "because I said so" when they want to know why. Looking back on those vows, I have to chuckle, because there is no way and inexperienced, young, new mother knows how or what to do with or for her children at the beginning of their lives, I had put such boundaries on how I was going to raise these young children. It is so unrealistic. I remember my mother and my mother-in-law hearing me making those vows and laughing between the two of them, and me saying in my head, "you just wait, I will show you." 

The very first time I said, "Now come here... ONE, TWO..." I stopped in my tracks and cringed. I realized that I had broken my vow. I just sank down deep; I cried and said, “I am becoming our parents!” Laughter just filled my body, you know, not the little chuckle, not the laugh just from your throat. That full body laugh, falling on the floor, and laugh until you cry kind of laugh. 

I remember my son just looking at me, trying to figure out this strange emotion that had come over my face, he couldn't figure out if he was still in trouble, or if mommy had done something wrong... I felt so bad that I had just lost all concentration on the situation and just sat hugging him, laughing and crying and telling him, that mommies are not always perfect either, sometimes we just don't always know what to do either, so we have to laugh at ourselves and figure out the next step in the plan.

You see, I realized that as parent I had to spend so much time protecting my children when they were small, figuring out to make a way for them, and was enjoying them at their small, innocent age, that sometimes rules are not thought out ahead of time, there are too many to think of when they are small, too many situations that I couldn't make up every rule the day they were born, to know how to handle every situation they were going to face from infant to adult. I realized that my parents couldn't do that either, that no one can. I see how rules get made up as I go, not all rules, but many situations could not be thought of ahead of time, and as a parent I have to figure out where I stand, what I believe and how God would want me to handle an issue, then with God's wisdom and help, I can create a set of rules for the home for all children to obey, for me to stand for, and for others to know I am following a path that God would have me and my family follow.

Now, as a Child of God, I realize that God in all His grace and mercy has always walked along side of me, has always shown me what is best for me, and how I am to raise my children. I don't always like the outcome of my prayer, because I want to give my child everything that will make them "happy" but I also know, that I am teaching my children not to base their lives on happiness and other feelings that can be betrayed, but that I have to teach my children how to find REAL JOY, the Joy that comes from God. He shows and helps me through all things, and God is the source of that joy and peace, and when I am obedient and following after Him, I can have those things for myself, and my children can have them too.